Now that we are unpacked and settled, “Sister Gardener” focuses on the terrain that our heavenly Father has loaned to us through a very generous benefactor. Manual labor is a very important part of the day of a religious. Saint Francis of Assisi strongly emphasized manual labor as an integral part of the Franciscan way of life, believing it to be a way to imitate Christ and to combat idleness, which he considered to be the enemy of the soul. By working with their hands, the friars imitated Christ, Who worked as a carpenter to provide for Himself and His family. St. Francis’s love for nature extended also to his view of work, seeing it as a way to contribute to God’s creation and care for it.
Pax et bonum! At long last, we have arrived to Burlington, Colorado, and the next chapter in our community life begins. We marvel at Divine Providence and the loving care of our Heavenly Father, Who continues to provide for us in ways beyond all human expectation. Like our seraphic father, St. Francis, our beginnings were very meager. In fact, we started out in a small 15′ x 15′ space. From there, a very generous family offered a 450 square foot apartment on their property, which we fondly called our “Rivo Torto”, after the little ruined building where St. Francis and his first followers began their community life and from whence many blessings flowed for the founding of the Order. We were very happy in this little place!
However, our constant prayer has been that we may be near daily Mass in order to take our longed-for place before the tabernacle and receive our Divine Spouse in Holy Communion daily. Our congregation prays a perpetual novena to St. Joseph and to Our Lady of Prompt Succor. Both have refused us nothing that has been for the good of our congregation. Quite spontaneously, a generous benefactor has offered the use of a home less than two blocks from the Church and our Father Director. Needless to say, words fail to express our heartfelt gratitude towards all of the good souls whose generosity and sacrifice have made our life possible. While words fail us, we confidently look to our loving Father in heaven to repay each of them the promised hundredfold in this life and in eternity.
We continue to beg the charity of your prayers and for your support, as three young ladies prepare to visit in order to discern their vocations. We continue to work towards the goal of a permanent convent to house the vocations God may send to us. We ask your prayers for our fidelity and perseverance, and we assure you of a constant place in the heart of our prayers. May God bless and keep you!
Arrival at the house in Burlington. It was our first experience driving a U-Haul truck… Thank you, guardian angels for guiding us safely to port!
The school children gathered for one last picture before we set off.
A little rabbit has taken up residence in the flower garden. St. Francis loved God’s little creatures, who always do the will of God, and we take great joy in them too.
One of the apostolates of our congregation is the doctrinal formation of children in order to prepare them for the combat they must surely face in this life. In order for this formation to bear fruit, it is necessary that parents understand the gravity of their duty towards the eternal souls of their children and the account they will render to God.
Advice to Parents
by Saint Alphonsus Liguori (1696-1787)
Saint Alphonsus, founder of the Redemptorist Order, Bishop and Doctor of the Church, expounds on the privilege and grave responsibilities of parents.
The gospel tells us that a good plant cannot produce bad fruit and that a bad one cannot produce good fruit. We learn from this that a good father brings up good children. But, if the parents are wicked, how can the children be virtuous? Our Lord says, in the same gospel, Do men gather grapes from thorns, or figs from thistles? (Matt. 7:16). So, it is impossible, or rather very difficult, to find children virtuous, who are brought up by immoral parents. Fathers and mothers, be attentive to this sermon, which is of great importance to the eternal salvation of yourselves and of your children. Be attentive, young men and young women who have not as yet chosen a state in life. If you wish to marry, learn the obligations which you contract with regard to the education of your children, and learn also, that if you do not fulfill them, you shall bring yourselves and all your children to damnation. I shall divide this into two points. In the first, I shall show how important it is to bring up children in habits of virtue; and, in the second, I shall show with what care and diligence a parent ought to labor to bring them up well.
A father owes two obligations to his children; he is bound to provide for their corporal wants, and to educate them in the habits of virtue. It is not necessary to say anything else about the first obligation, than, there are some fathers more cruel than the most ferocious of wild beasts, for these squander away in eating, drinking, and pleasure, all their property, or all the fruits of their industry, and allow their children to die of hunger. Let us discuss education, which is the subject of this article.
It is certain that a child’s future good or bad conduct depends on his being brought up well or poorly. Nature itself teaches every parent to attend to the education of his offspring. God gives children to parents, not that they may assist the family, but that they may be brought up in the fear of God, and be directed in the way of eternal salvation. “We have,” says Saint John Chrysostom, “a great deposit in children, let us attend to them with great care.” Children have not been given to parents as a present, which they may dispose of as they please, but as a trust, for which, if lost through their negligence; they must render an account to God.
One of the great Fathers says that on the day of judgment, parents will have to render an account for all the sins of their children. So, he who teaches his son to live well, shall die a happy and tranquil death. He that teaches his son…when he died, he was not sorrowful, neither was he confounded before his enemies (Eccl. 30: 3,5). And he will save his soul by means of his children, that is, by the virtuous education which he has given them. She shall be saved through childbearing (I Tim. 2:15).
But, on the other hand, a very uneasy and unhappy death will be the lot of those who have labored only to increase the possessions, or to multiply the honors of their family, or who have sought only to lead a life of ease and pleasure, but have not watched over the morals of their children. Saint Paul says that such parents are worse than infidels. But if any man have not care of his own, and especially of those of his house, he has denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel (I Tim. 5:8).
Were fathers or mothers to lead a life of piety and continual prayer, and to communicate every day, they should be damned if they neglected the care of their children.
If all fathers fulfilled their duty of watching over the education of their children, we should have but few crimes. By the bad education which parents give to their offspring, they cause their children, says Saint John Chrysostom, to rush into many grievous vices; and thus they deliver them up to the hands of the executioner. So it was, in one town, a parent, who was the cause of all the irregularities of his children, was justly punished for his crimes with greater severity than the children themselves. Great indeed is the misfortune of the child that has vicious parents, who are incapable of bringing up their children in the fear of God, and who, when they see their children engage in dangerous friendships and in quarrels, instead of correcting and chastising them, they take compassion on them, and say, “What can I do? They are young; hopefully they will grow out of it.” What wicked words, what a cruel education! Do you hope that when your children grow up, they will become saints? Listen to what Solomon says, “A young man, according to his way, even when he is old, he will not depart from it” (Proverbs 22:6). A young man who has contracted a habit of sin, will not abandon it even in his old age. His bones, says holy Job, will be filled with the vices of his youth, and they will sleep with him in the dust (Job 20:11). When a young person has lived in evil habits, his bones will be filled with the vices of his youth, so that he will carry them to the grave, and the impurities, blasphemies, and hatred to which he was accustomed in his youth, will accompany him to the grave, and will sleep with him after his bones are reduced to dust and ashes. It is very easy, when they are small, to train children to habits of virtue, but, when they have come to manhood, it is equally difficult to correct them, if they have learned habits of vice.
Let us come to the second point, that is, to the means of bringing up children in the practice of virtue. I beg you, fathers and mothers, to remember what I now say to you, from on it depends the eternal salvation of your own souls, and of the souls of your children.
Saint Paul teaches sufficiently, in a few words, in what the proper education of children consists. He says that it consists in discipline and correction. And you, fathers, provoke not your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and correction of the Lord (Ephes. 5:4). Discipline, which is the same as the religious regulation of the morals of children, implies an obligation of educating them in habits of virtue by word and example. First, by words: a good father should often assemble his children, and instill into them the holy fear of God. It was in this manner that Tobias brought up his little son. The father taught him from his childhood to fear the Lord and to fly from sin. And from infancy he taught him to fear God and abstain from sin (Tobias 1:10). The wise man says, that a well educated son is the support and consolation of his father. Instruct your son, and he will refresh you, and will give delight to your soul (Prov. 29:17). But, as a well instructed son is the delight of his father’s soul, so an ignorant child is a source of sorrow to a father’s heart, for the ignorance of his obligations as a Christian is always accompanied with a bad life.
It was related that, in the year 1248, an ignorant priest was commanded, in a certain synod, to make a discourse. He was greatly agitated by the command and the Devil appearing to him, instructed him to say, “The rectors of infernal darkness salute the rectors of parishes, and thank them for their negligence in instructing the people; because from ignorance proceeds the misconduct and the damnation of many.”
The same is true of negligent parents. In the first place, a parent ought to instruct his children in the truths of the Faith, and particularly in the four principle mysteries. First, that there is but One God, the Creator and Lord of all things; secondly, that this God is a remunerator, Who, in the next life, will reward the good with the eternal glory of Paradise, and will punish the wicked with the everlasting torments of Hell; thirdly, the mystery of the Most Holy Trinity, that is, that in God there are Three Persons, Who are only One God, because They have but One Essence; fourthly, the mystery of the Incarnation of the Divine Word, the Son of God, and True God, Who became man in the womb of Mary, and suffered and died for our salvation.
Should a father or mother say, “I myself do not know these mysteries,” can such an excuse be admitted? Can one sin excuse another? If you are ignorant of these mysteries, you are obliged to learn them, and afterwards to teach them to your children. At least, send your children to a worthy catechist. What a miserable thing to see so many fathers and mothers, who are unable to instruct their children in the most necessary truths of the Faith, and who, instead of sending their sons and daughters to Christian doctrine, employ them in occupations of little account, and when they are grown up, they do not know what is meant by mortal sin, by Hell, or eternity. They do not even know the Creed, the Our Father, or the Hail Mary, which every Christian is bound to learn under pain of mortal sin.
Religious parents not only instruct their children in these things, which are the most important, but they also teach them the acts which ought to be made every morning after rising. They teach them first, to thank God for having preserved their life during the night, secondly to offer to God all their good actions which they will perform, and all the pains which they will suffer during the day, thirdly, to implore of Jesus Christ and Our Most Holy Mother Mary to preserve them from all sin during the day. They teach them to make, every evening, an examination of conscience and an act of contrition. They also teach them to make every day, the acts of Faith, Hope and Charity, to recite the Rosary, and to visit the Blessed Sacrament. Some good fathers of families are careful to get a book of meditations to read, and to have mental prayer in common for half an hour every day. This is what the Holy Ghost exhorts you to practice. Do you have children? Instruct them and bow down their neck from their childhood (Eccl. 7:25). Endeavor to train them from their infancy to these religious habits, and when they grow up, they will persevere in them. Accustom them also to go to confession and communion every week.
It is also very useful to infuse good maxims into the infant minds of children. What ruin is brought upon children by their father who teaches them worldly maxims! “You must,” some parents say to their children, “seek the esteem and applause of the world. God is merciful; He takes compassion on certain sins.” How miserable the young man is who sins in obedience to such maxims. Good parents teach very different maxims to their children. Queen Blanche, the mother of Saint Louis, King of France, used to say to him, “My son, I would rather see you dead in my arms, than in the state of sin.” So then, let it be your practice also to infuse into your children certain maxims of salvation, such as, What will it profit us to gain the whole world, if we lose our own souls? Everything on this earth has an end, but eternity never ends. Let all be lost, provided God is not lost. One of these maxims well impressed on the mind of a young person, will preserve him always in the grace of God.
But parents are obliged to instruct their children in the practice of virtue, not only by words, but still more by example. If you give your children bad example, how can you expect that they will lead good lives? When a dissolute young man is corrected for a fault, he answers, “Why do you censure me, when my father does worse?” The children will complain of an ungodly father, because for his sake they are in reproach (Eccl. 41:10). How is it possible for a son to be moral and religious, when he has had the example of a father who uttered blasphemies and obscenities, who spent the entire day in the tavern, in games and drunkenness, who was in the habit of frequenting houses of bad fame, and of defrauding his neighbor? Do you expect your son to go frequently to confession, when you yourself approach the confessional scarcely once a year?
It is related in a fable, that a crab one day rebuked its young for walking crookedly. They replied, “Father, let us see you walk.” The father walked before them more crookedly than they did. This is what happens to the parent who gives bad example. Hence, he has not even courage to correct his children for the sins which he himself commits.
According to Saint Thomas, scandalous parents compel, in a certain manner, their children to lead a bad life. “They are not,” says Saint Bernard, “fathers, but murderers, they kill, not the bodies, but the souls of their children.” It is useless for parents to say: “My children have been born with bad dispositions.” This is not true, for, Seneca says, “You err, if you think that vices are born with us; they have been engrafted.” Vices are not born with your children, but have been communicated to them by the bad example of the parents. If you had given good example to your sons, they would not be so vicious as they are. So parents, frequent the Sacraments, learn from the sermons, recite the Rosary every day, abstain from all obscene language, from detraction, and from quarrels, and you will see that your children follow your example. It is particularly necessary to train children to virtue in their infancy, Bow down their neck from their childhood, for when they have grown up, and contracted bad habits, it will be very difficult for you to produce, by words, any amendment in their lives.
To bring up children in the discipline of the Lord, it is also necessary to take away from them the occasion of doing evil. A father must forbid his children to go out at night, or to go to a house in which their virtue might be exposed to danger, or to keep bad company. Cast out, said Sarah to Abraham, this bondswoman and her son (Gen. 21:10). She wished to have Ismael, the son of Agar the bondswoman, banished from her house, that her son Isaac might not learn his vicious habits. Bad companions are the ruin of young persons. A father should not only remove the evil which he witnesses, but he is also bound to inquire after the conduct of his children, and to seek information from family and from outsiders regarding the places which his children frequent when they leave home, regarding their occupations and companions. A father ought to forbid his children ever to bring into his house stolen goods. When Tobias heard the bleating of a goat in his house, he said, Take care, perhaps it is stolen, go, restore it to its owners (Tobias 2:21).
Parents should prohibit their children from all games, which bring destruction on their families and on their own souls, and also dances, suggestive entertainment, and certain dangerous conversations and parties of pleasures. A father should remove from his house books of romances, which pervert young persons, and all bad books which contain pernicious maxims, tales of obscenity, or of profane love. He should not permit his daughters to be alone with men, whether young or old. But some will say, “But this man tutors my daughter; he is a saint.” The saints are in Heaven, but the saints that are on earth are flesh, and by proximate occasions, they may become devils.
Another obligation of parents is to correct the faults of the family. “Bring them up in the discipline and correction of the Lord.” There are fathers and mothers who witness faults in the family and remain silent. Through fear of displeasing their children, some fathers neglect to correct them, but if you saw your child falling into a pool of water, and in danger of being drowned, would it not be savage cruelty not to catch him by the hair, and save his life? He that spares the rod hates his son (Prov. 13:24). If you love your children, correct them, and while they are growing up, chastise them, even with the rod, as often as it may be necessary.
I say, with the rod, but not with a stick; for you must correct them like a father, and not like a prison guard. You must be careful not to beat them when you are in a passion, for you will then be in danger of beating them with too much severity, and the correction will be without fruit, for then they believe that the chastisement is the effect of anger, and not of a desire on your part to see them amend their lives. I have also said, that you should correct them while they are growing up , for when they arrive at manhood, your correction will be of little use. You must then abstain from correcting them with the hand; otherwise, they will become more perverse, and will lose their respect for you. What use is it to correct children with injurious words and with imprecations? Deprive them of some part of their meals, of certain articles of dress, or shut them up in their room. I have said enough. Draw from this discourse the conclusion, that he who has brought up his children badly, will be severely punished, and that he who has trained them in the habits of virtue, will receive a great reward.
Shortly before our Seraphic Father St. Francis died, he called together his followers and warned them of the coming troubles in the Catholic Church stating the following:
1. The time is fast approaching in which there will be great trials and afflictions; perplexities and dissensions, both spiritual and temporal, will abound; the charity of many will grow cold, and the malice of the wicked will increase.
2. The devils will have unusual power, the immaculate purity of our Order, and of others, will be so much obscured that there will be very few Christians who will obey the true Sovereign Pontiff and the Roman Church with loyal hearts and perfect charity. At the time of this tribulation a man, not canonically elected, will be raised to the Pontificate, who, by his cunning, will endeavor to draw many into error and death.
3. Then scandals will be multiplied, our Order will be divided, and many others will be entirely destroyed, because they will consent to error instead of opposing it.
4. There will be such diversity of opinions and schisms among the people, the religious and the clergy, that, except those days were shortened, according to the words of the Gospel, even the elect would be led into error, were they not specially guided, amid such great confusion, by the immense mercy of God.
5. Then our Rule and manner of life will be violently opposed by some, and terrible trials will come upon us. Those who are found faithful will receive the crown of life; but woe to those who, trusting solely in their Order, shall fall into tepidity, for they will not be able to support the temptations permitted for the proving of the elect.
6. Those who persevere in their fervor and adhere to virtue with love and zeal for the truth, will suffer injuries and, persecutions as rebels and schismatics; for their persecutors, urged on by the evil spirits, will say they are rendering a great service to God by destroying such pestilent men from the face of the earth. but the Lord will be the refuge of the afflicted, and will save all who trust in Him. And in order to be like their Head, [Christ] these, the elect, will act with confidence, and by their death will purchase for themselves eternal life; choosing to obey God rather than man, they will fear nothing, and they will prefer to perish rather than consent to falsehood and perfidy.
7. Some preachers will keep silence about the truth, and others will trample it under foot and deny it. Sanctity of life will be held in derision even by those who outwardly profess it, for in those days JESUS CHRIST WILL SEND THEM NOT A TRUE PASTOR, BUT A DESTROYER.”
If anyone is interested, the information above can be found in:
Works of the Seraphic Father St. Francis Of Assisi, Washbourne, 1882, pp. 248-250
From June 1 through June 5, we held our St. Clare Girls’ Summer Camp at Possum Hollow Camp in Graham, Texas. For the second Summer in a row, Jim and Tracie Bittle generously provided the girls with a large cabin on the lake and memories to last a lifetime. Fr. Francis Miller, OFM, sacrificed what little time he had between missions, weddings, and sick calls in order to provide the girls with daily Mass, confessions, and spiritual conferences. He also put his boating skills to work in order to make the camp extra special for us. We wish to extend our heartfelt gratitude to him and the Bittles for this great work of charity, and we assure them of a perpetual remembrance in our community prayers.
Please keep the Sisters in your prayers as we prepare to move to Colorado at the end of June. Though the move is temporary, a generous benefactor has offered us the use of a house in order that we may have daily Mass and be near our Father Director. This will allow us to live our semi-contemplative life and keep our Capuchin customs, which is something we have longed for and prayed for unceasingly. In addition, we will now be able to receive visits from candidates who are interested in our congregation. Be assured that each and every one of you will be carried with us in prayer and that your intentions will be offered to Our Lord before the tabernacle each day. We ask Him to bless you on our behalf, and may Our Lady keep you close to her Immaculate Heart!
The academic year ended on May 21 with a beautiful theatrical production of the book of “Esther” by the students. The children worked for four months to memorize lines, create sets, and prepare costumes. We were very proud of their accomplishment, which gave great joy to all in attendance. After a weekend in spiritual retreat, preparations will begin for Summer camp. This year, there are seven young ladies in attendance.
We ask for your prayers, for the girls and the Sisters, that the camp may be a source of grace and increase in virtue. The conferences this year will center around Mary-like modesty and the true role of the Catholic woman. We will also speak to the girls about vocations.
We are very blessed to have Fr. Francis Miller, OSF, as our camp chaplain again this year, and we beg the charity of your prayers for his safe travels from Brazil to Louisiana and then from Louisiana to Texas in order to provide the girls with the sacraments and spiritual direction.
Finally, we ask your prayers for Jim and Tracie Bittle, our generous benefactors, who have so graciously provided a place for us at Possum Hollow Camp again this year. May God bless you all, and be assured of our constant prayers. Pax et Bonum!
We wish you all a most blessed and grace-filled Easter! The weeks and months have flown by since our last newsletter and, very soon, another Summer will be upon us. So much has happened since our last communication, but our greatest and most joyful news to share is our profession of vows which took place on March 19th, the feast of St. Joseph. Our Lord, now rightly called our divine Spouse, provided above and beyond all expectations for this long awaited day. Along with a large group of friends and family members from several states, we were blessed with the great honor to have three priests and two seminarians in attendance. Our Father Director, Fr. Fray Leon Speroni, OFMcap, came from Colorado to receive our vows after having preached our retreat the week before. Also in attendance were Fr. Francis Miller, OFM, and Fr. Stephen Sandquist, to whom we owe a debt of gratitude for allowing us to use his beautiful chapel for the ceremony and for leading the singing at both the Mass and the profession. Adding to our joy was the blessing of His Excellency, Bishop Pivarunas, upon the occasion. He and the seminary graciously provided the food for the occasion. The priests and seminarians made great sacrifices in order to assist us, and it goes without saying that they will be remembered perpetually in our prayers.
Sometimes, people ask us what qualities a young lady must possess to follow a religious vocation. We tell them that one of the most important qualities is a strong and unwavering hope. To make religious profession is to surrender your life and everything about it, not to another person, not to a worldly pursuit (however great and noble), but back into the hands of the One Who created it: Almighty God Himself. It is to keep nothing for oneself and to rely on no one or nothing but Him. It is to give up everything, even and especially one’s own will, and to place one’s hope entirely and irrevocably in God. To do that, one must trust Him with her whole heart. Unlike the hope of the world, which is based on fallible and passing things, this hope is stable and unfailing, since it rests on God, Who is all-powerful, all-good, and never breaks His promises.
More recently, now that the white veil has been exchanged for the black with the profession of vows, we are asked what these things symbolize. Striving for perfection and holiness, implicit in the taking of vows, is the first obligation of every religious consecrated to God and His Church. The holy veil represents renouncement of the world’s attractions and of her own past sins, of her will and of any selfish ambitions; humble admission of her own weakness and inability to live justly without the grace of God; gratitude for God’s mercy; desire to converse with God alone; expectation of a merciful judgment and anticipation of the happiness and purity of eternal life in Heaven. The black of the veil does indeed represent death: death to the world – but be most assured – vibrant life to God and His interests. In professing vows and binding ourselves to Our Lord Jesus Christ, we are not running away from or losing anything but, rather, we are running towards and gaining everything in Him.
Finally, we are asked particulars about life as a Capuchin Sister of St. Joseph. Our congregation is semi-contemplative. Following the customs of the Capuchins, it is in our constitutions to jealously guard the contemplative aspect of this mixed life. While the Rule does allow for a limited and part-time apostolate in teaching, assisting the priests with sacristy work, or visiting the sick and dying, we also have two periods of mental prayer and maintain silence and cloister when not engaged in these works. Our schedule is full with the chanting of the entire Little Office of the Blessed Virgin Mary, Spiritual Reading, Rosary, and devotions to the Stations of the Cross and the Franciscan Crown. We do, of course, have a daily recreation, and this time is always one of great joy. In fact, in the spirit of St. Francis and all of the friends of God, despite sufferings and daily crosses, our entire life is one of great joy. What has brought us together under one roof and keeps us here, despite our different temperaments and characters, is the ultimate goal that we share in common: union with Our Lord Jesus Christ. All of our preferences fall aside as we strive with one mind and one heart after this goal and its fruit: the glory of God and the salvation of souls. We encourage one another, inspire one another, and aid one another in the steep climb of the mountain of perfection. How fitting it is, in the ceremony of profession, to close with the hymn, “Ecce Quam Bonum” (Psalm 132): “How good it is, and how pleasant, where brethren dwell as one.”
With the assurance of our prayers,
The Capuchin Sisters of St. Joseph
OUR NEW CHALLENGE…CAN YOU HELP US?
Following the profession ceremony, we have begun to receive inquiries from young ladies around the country, and even abroad, who wish to discern their vocation as a Capuchin Sister. Up until now, we have lived in a very small garage apartment, our little “Rivo Torto”, on the land of generous benefactors who have made great sacrifices to help our convent. However, as God has begun to send these vocations our way, it is necessary that we obtain a proper home, suitable for the Sisters to expand and live retired from the world. We are in great need of help to make this possible, and we are relying on the Providence of God and your generosity for the accomplishment of this work.
Capuchin Sisters of St Joseph 